My friend, Melanie, introduced me to TR a year or two ago at a jam session I was hosting. I remember him being a great sax player, but didn’t get to talk with him much that night. I knew I’d like him, though, when he sent Mel an email saying he’d go out with me IF he could make stupid faces in the photos, I sang him a song, and I didn’t mention his offensive personal odor in my blog.
TR was hilarious. It was so easy to feel comfortable and relaxed with him. And it was crazy how much we had in common! We had lots of similar life experiences, like working in Alaska, missions to the British Isles during the same time, living on the east coast, performing music, working in rehab with teenagers, and more.
I loved that he took me to a hole-in-the-wall Korean barbeque and that we got to try new and adventurous foods together. I loved that he knew random facts about topics that ranged from Asian herbal medicine to film to religion and beyond… not in a “know-it-all” way. In a “this-guy-has-a-lot-of-cool-interests” way. I also loved that he noticed the old man haircut on the cute little Korean kid making faces at us through the restaurant window.
Another awesome thing about TR was that he gave off the impression that he’s totally accepting of whatever you say or do. He was comfortable in his own skin, so you felt permission to wear yours the way you wanted to also… without judgement. To me, that’s a talent, and I admired it in him.
Since I worked pretty late tonight and had an early day tomorrow, we didn’t get to spend a lot of time together, but the time was pretty quality. He didn’t make stupid faces (I think the kid took care of that), I didn’t sing him any songs, and I did mention something I wasn’t supposed to earlier in the blog (he smelled pretty good to me, by the way). And even though I didn’t meet those dating conditions, I still got to enjoy a date with a cute and fun guy. Talk about getting the good end of the deal…